Unconditional
Love... BeiYin
'Unconditioned' only exist when the person
who is loving is not conditioned and this for sure is not the case if you
love your children. You don't know if you would love them the same way
if they would not be your children. You say yes, but the simple fact that
they are your children is a condition and this love has it's base in an
inbuilt instinct. Do you love all children the same like your own children?
Probably not, but if you do so, then still there is a condition: They are
children. Do you love all humans? Probably not, you will make distinctions,
why? Because you are conditioned. If you love all humans, then you have
still the condition that they are human. If you would love all existing
being, no matter what it is, then your love might be without conditions.
But who is capable for this? A very few human beings in the history of
humanity. But they have given us something to strive for... So we all have
images about what love could be. And we have made these images to such
an intense property that we believe we possess these images. We try to
live these images and we adapted them to situations as much as possible.
If it doesn't fit really then we don't look too near...
The dilemma is, that possessing these images,
we are not capable to see the reality and we don't want to see it, because
then we would need to correct our concept of reality and this we don't
want. So we prefer to defend what we believe is our truth. We easily feel
offended and take information personal feeling attacked. Do you see what
I mean?
I personally don't need to 'believe' that there
are these 'possibilities' because I 'know' that it exist, but I also know
that the concept about it is not realized and I am convinced that this
is the main reason for most of our problems in daily life: The discrepancy
between our image and our daily reality. We try to fit it somehow and it
doesn't work, so we have found a lot of tricks to survive with our concepts:
We escape, we fight, we don't look, we get angry, we find a reason, etc.
Do you feel offended now? It should be clear
that this is not my intention. It should be also clear that this is your
reaction out of your defense, because you need to defend your position,
your image, your concept, your opinion. You are identified with this and
this makes your 'personality'. This is the reason why you are separated
from others. Your intention to go beyond the separation is coming out of
a strong longing. Probably out of this is born the identification with
images which then are felt like a 'quasi realization'. This is obvious
but difficult to see, because it is a common state of partial blindness.
Can you somehow sense what I am talking about?
I believe that we are entering in times where
our survival depend on our capability to drop our blinders...
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