Comment:
We need to feel that we are accepted and matter to other people.
BeiYin:
Who is 'we'? For whom you are the speaker? This is a statement you
can use for yourself but not generalizing it. Although most of humans need
confirmation through other people and with this are trapped in dependence,
lies and manipulation, it is incorrect to let this sound like an inevitable
condition of human kind. It is not. Only when clinging on one's limited
personality. Although this is natural, the suffering caused by depending
on this limitation, opens the possibility to go forward, towards development
and growth. With the advanced result to go beyond.
Comment:
...because we are all interconnected.
BeiYin:
Is this a concept or comes this statement out of your own spiritual experience?
Probably it's a concept, because someone who feels 'interconnected' with
'all' does not depend anymore on other people in one's feelings and has
no need to be confirmed in one's existence by other people.
Concepts,
specially idealistic and spiritual concepts, might help to survive disgusting
reality, but also they create a split and produce
suffering
and frustration because the individual can't be content with
reality
due to the concept of a 'better' world. People are forced into
a game,
turning around themselves. Finding their self confirmation for
something
they believe they are, in their fighting against reality, for dreams and
images, submitted by common concepts and adapted and
accepted
by society.
It is
extremely difficult to look through these games, because the personality
gets one's existence out of it and is bound to one's lies,
holding
on one's self image and pretending to find realization in it. To
get
out of the trap would require to quest oneself as a first step and this
is hardly possible. The majority of people are identified with their dreams,
concepts and beliefs and so they must defend themselves, what reforces
their personality even more. Right?
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