BeiYin: When
people start to smoke, mostly when they are young, then it is very much
a social thing. They want to demonstrate that they are grown up, doing
things the adults are doing, so they feel that it looks ‘cool’. But then
they get addicted because of the nicotine that has a numbing effect on
ones mind, although some smokers say that smoking stimulates their thinking.
But probably this is just an excuse to justify their silliness.
People who are smoking are trying to release
their stress and so they smoke excessively when there is more stress. But
they can’t release any stress by smoking, they only reduce their response
to situations that create stress. People who are in a conflict situation
smoke a lot with the same reason, but they can’t help finding a solution
by smoking, it only reduces their response by numbing them. ‘But then they
need something that stimulates them and so smoker need to drink coffee.
It looks like that nicotine goes together with caffeine. We can observe
this everywhere.
It is not just stress because of outside difficulties.
There is another more subtle reason why people smoke. A conflict situation
can be caused by coming to the moment in ones life when nothing seems to
make sense, there is confusing because things didn’t work out how one wants
it and then there is just too much one should deal with, but one feels
impotent to deal with life and coming to the point falling into a void.
The smoker doesn’t want to deal with this situation and somehow it works
he/she fills the void with smoke, paying very expensive with this when
rejecting the given challenges in life.
Smoker are not willing to confront openly a conflict
situation, smoking is the best way for them to hide. This is dramatically
serious, because if they do not relate and respond out of their full capacity,
then they get stuck in their personal evolution and this also has a serious
effect on their whole system. Nicotine is toxic and weakens the system,
but this is not the most serious. When the growing is intentionally blocked,
then this accumulates energy and tension and this will blow up the system
in its weakest point. It might be that the system destroys itself through
a disease or the smoker has destructive tendencies, manifesting aggression
and violence in his/hers surrounding. This might happen verbal or in form
of emotional threatening and in extreme cases they are provoking others
to use their reaction to be physically violent.
It is difficult to relate to smoker, because
they don’t want to look at themselves. They don’t ask for help and they
reject any help. They are in a spiral of self-destruction and they draw
others into it. That is probably the main reason why smoker doing so hard
if they want to quit smoking even when they are effected by their habit
and seriously sick. It seems not only a personal problem but also a social
one. This society is formed and ruled by smokers and hardly anybody is
questioning the situation and wanting seriously to do something about it.
There is another aspect why people smoke.
Because they like to regret into an infantile
state, where they don’t need to take self-responsibility, so instead of
sucking a dummy (Am. pacifier) they suck at a cigarette or cigar. It brings
them back to the beautiful time when lying in mothers arms, protected,
warm and secure. So when people need to confront situations in daily life
that are not giving this satisfaction they would like to have when they
were a baby, then they grab a cigarette. People are not conscious about
it and they indeed don’t want to look at it and they get really angry if
one question their habit and they react the same as a baby if you take
away the pacifier (!).
Probably people drink for a similar reason, if
they suck on a bottle then this is the same and works the same as a dummy-pacifier!
So it is obvious that people don’t want to grow up! And it is easy to understand
why they get angry if life’s situations are threatening, forcing them to
grow!